Random Thoughts by Pauline

April 26 2014, Saturday   

 Three daughters

It was Good Friday morning, I was in a taxi taking me from Hung Hom to the airport. The driver in his sixties was quite courteous greeting me with “good morning”. And as the ride was long, I started a conversation with him by asking if I was his first passenger for the day. He replied pleasantly that I was and that he had had breakfast with his wife before starting work.

 

We went on talking about children and schooling. He told me that he had three daughters with two already at work and one still studying. He proudly said that they were all in English as Medium of Instruction (EMI) schools and that the two elder daughters were both professionals. The eldest, 30 was an accountant and the other, 26, a physiotherapist. I commented that he must have worked very hard to support the girls’ schooling. He didn’t! They were awarded scholarships after scholarships!

 

Contented as he was, this father had one worry though – he didn’t know if his two elder daughters had started any romantic relationships yet! He reminisced that back then in his times, people in love would be talking on the phone a lot and parents would know a relationship was developing. But now that there is the smart phone, parents would not have any clue whether their grown up children are already in a relationship! And what’s more, people don’t talk. They just swipe! 

 

That brought me back to the scene almost half a century ago when my father received my first call from a boy and how he interrogated me for details! 

 

 

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April 17 2014, Thursday     

Job applicants

I have been interviewing teachers these few days. Once the vacancy advertisement is out, we get lots of applications. Most of the applicants are fresh graduates. Their application letters are of almost the same format and so are their looks because they are all dressed in black suits. There is a general lack of personality. It seems these days young people are more comfortable being one of the mass rather than being different and standing out!

When reading application letters, I am very serious and read each letter. That takes hours of work. Then I short-list interesting ones for interview. What do I mean by interesting ones? What kind of applicants can attract my attention? Here are just a few examples.
One applicant quitted her private tutoring and spent four years to do a degree programme majoring in English and a one-year full-time teacher training.   She came for interview and responded to my questions gingerly though still able to demonstrate her passion.
Then there is a fresh graduate with coach certification in all kinds of sports. His academic performance is not outstanding. He did not graduate from esteemed secondary school but his enthusiasm for sports is written all over his face!

One more interesting applicant – a law graduate applying to be a teacher! At interview, she explained that she studied law to satisfy her mother and that she did not even attend her own graduation ceremony. She described how unpleasant her internship at law firms was and expounded that she wanted to be with children and pursue a career in education.

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April 16 2014, Wednesday           

If   by Rudyard Kipling

 On the wall next to the school lift on the ground floor, there is a big framed poster presenting the poem If by Rudyard Kipling (1865-1936). On a nearby moveable board is displayed DiZi Gui or Students’ Rules written by Li Yuxiu (1661 – 1722). These two pieces of celebrated work succinctly summarize what we expect of our students.  I am here to share how I feel about the former.

I love the poem which is actually a set of highly demanding rules for growing up. Each line is a motto and maxim for life – the very positive energy we need at confused moments. And the elegant imagery is so vividly presented that illustrations can be easily drawn.

Kipling did not have an easy life with an abused childhood, failure at school and deaths of his children. But he achieved fame quickly with his poems and stories. In 1907 he was awarded the Nobel Prize for Literature.

The lines I love most are:If you can dream - and not make dreams your master,If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;If you can meet with Triumph and DisasterAnd treat those two impostors just the same;

According to Kipling, to be successful in life, we have to dream but we should not just stay dreaming. We have to make our dreams happen. Very often, we indulge in thinking too much and acting too little. The consequence is nothing ever happens!

Of course, we often lose our heads rejoicing when sailing is plain and give up in desperation when faced with tragedies. But Kipling reminds us that these moments always come and go as they are imposters. We only have to take them easy and life will go on!

As I age, I have to agree to the wisdom of Kipling’s advice. Read the poem and find a line that resonates with you!

Here is the link:  http://www.poetryfoundation.org/poem/175772

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April 15 2014 Tuesday                  

1:10

“If you are unfaithful to me once, I will pay you back tenfold!” said wife to husband!

This couple are in their forties and both are very concerned about their looks. They take facial treatments including intrusive lazar sessions. They visit the gym regularly and have their own coach. The wife has the fairest complexion and the husband is the coolest guy in the profession.

The wife puts on the most expensive skin products and cosmetics which she only washes off before going to bed and only when the lights are out. She gets up earlier than the husband to make sure she has time for the morning ritual. And yet, she still does not have faith in her own looks and worries sick that one day when her beauty fades, she will be dumped. In her moment of desperation, she declares the ultimatum!

What kind of a relationship is this? When romantic love is built on looks and youthfulness, it can never last. We all know no matter how hard we take care of our body, all that we can do is at best holding back the aging process! We will still grow old and wrinkled and weak!

Are couples not to care for each other in health and sickness till death parts them? Is this too good or too old-fashioned a vow for modern day people? I don’t know. Call me traditional. When I make a choice, I will honour it! I have never broken any commitment not in the past, not now and not in future!

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April 12 2014, Saturday     

Talents

Talents are people who can do what we can’t. Poets can put scenes vividly in words. They describe moods that we can only feel. Painters do dramatic works of portraits that photographers pale. Dancers present movements that make us doubt if their bodies are different from ours. Musicians compose pieces that move our heart and rock our body. Jewellers breathe life into rocks. Sculptors carve statues with lines that can show both strength and weakness.

 

I can go on the list because I have so much admiration for all these great people past and present that have immortalized beauty! I am not a talent. When I see a rainbow, I can but say “Oh! So pretty” And then the lyrics of “Somewhere over the rainbow” would come to my mind. When I watch the harbour view at night with all the sparkling lights, the famous jewellery pieces would be right there in front of my eyes. When I see the willow swaying by the brook, the few ballet performances I have watched would be presented once again just for me!

 

I who am not a talent am fortunate enough to live in a world where all the great masterpieces are only a click away.

Here you go – the most famous woman, Mona Lisa by Leonardo da Vince pained between 1503 – 1506.

 

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April 11 2014, Friday 

Parents of Teenagers

This is another MTR story. 

 

I was at the Tsim Sha Tsui East Station going down the escalator to the platform for the train to Kowloon Tong on a Sunday afternoon. I couldn’t help overhearing the conversation of the middle-aged couple standing two steps behind me.

 

“I talked to Katie last night and she agreed! She promised she and David would only hold hands and no kisses!” said the woman, perhaps a mother.

 

“You actually believe her? Look at the TV drama she is watching – all the kisses and sex scenes!” exclaimed the man, perhaps a father.

 

“Well, what can we do! She is 15 and we cannot watch her all day long!” sighed the mother.

 

Children have been brought up in fairy tales of the prince and the princess and all the gossips about who is dating whom in the entertainment world! When a boy meets a girl, and this is happening every day in school, they are teased and in a way encouraged to start what they think is “dating”. Parents should be concerned but instead of stopping or reprimanding their children, they should broaden their social life such as joining weekend classes, hiking or other sports.

 

In Chinese, there is a saying: bringing up a child to a hundred years old, you worry for 99 years! There is so much truth in it except why not that 1 year too? 

 

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April 9 2014, Wednesday      

Disposables

In the name of hygiene and convenience, we use a lot of disposables. Call me nostalgic – I am recalling how it was in the good old days! It was not too long ago. I think before mid-1970s when we recycled everything!

 

During menstruation, we girls used cloth napkin fitted with cut toilet sheets. We brought handkerchiefs and sneezed into them! Unimaginable now!

My son, Vincent, was born in 1974. That makes him 40 this year. When he was still an infant, we used cloth diapers made from old cotton clothes soft to the baby’s skin. The soiled diapers would be put in a basin of water to remove the urine and faeces. This water would be flushed down the toilet. The diapers would then be washed, rinsed and air-dried. I did not feel obnoxious at all washing these soiled diapers! See, there was no plastic involved!

Every now and then, an elderly man would come and knock on doors asking if we had any tins and cans. We children were very delighted to see him because in exchange for the 555 cigarette cans, we would be given maltose crackers. In the market, newspapers were used for wrapping even the fish and tofu and straws for the vegetables. Brown paper bags used for take-aways and bottles for all the drinks!

 

In come all the disposables and convenience and we rejoice until it dawns on us that we are harming our future generations! Still, it is better late than never! Be reflective and protect our environment! 

 

If girls want to try making own sanitary pads, browse this website:

http://www.ehow.com/about_5063452_did-use-before-sanitary-napkins.html#ixzz2yBT3ttL8