May 23 2015
Perfect match
What makes a perfect match? Compatibility in age, zodiac signs, family
background, credentials, richness, views and habits? In Chinese saying, there is “doors must be
compatible with the wooden doors for the wooden doors and the bamboo doors for
the bamboo doors”. In dynastic China, there were strict rules regarding the
style and structure of houses based on the office held by the owner of the
house. These covered the height and design of the doors, the eaves and all
decorative structures. The dragon design symbolizing the emperor was for
palaces only.
In these days, there is a more accepted view that couples should be
complementary of one another. If one is concave, then the other should be
convex! If one is kind of short temper, the other should have a cool
temperament to manage adversity and for harmony to be maintained. If one likes
to cook, then the other should love food!
But falling in love, in most cases, is more a “heart” rather than a
“head” matter! We don’t follow a compatibility checklist to evaluate our
partner. Neither are we calculate how far we can complement one another. Of
course, I know falling in love in one stage while putting down the signature on
the wedding certificate is another. Modern people commit themselves to
marriages for a variety of reasons, some being despicably monetary!
Even at my senior age now, I still hold fast onto the fairy tale
version of destiny bringing a man and a woman together though we have all read
about how a woman painstakingly choreographed for her to “bump into” a
multi-billionaire etc.
Why look for perfection? The pursuit of perfection is so exhausting!
Life is too short.
Once again, I want to bring in my life motto: chose what you love
and love what you have chosen! If destiny puts you two together, then embrace
it! Perfect or not, till death do you part!
